As you can probably imagine, pursuing a PhD in a field like chemistry can be intense, and this blog series is one way I decompress—while also breaking down the everyday nitty-gritties of postgrad life (for aspiring scholars) and sharing solidarity with others on the same journey.
Whoever you are and however you’re joining me today, you’re absolutely welcome!
As someone who had never left South Africa for more than a month-long vacation prior, relocating to the UK for my studies was a huge leap. Finding the daily courage to show up and enjoy the journey has been greatly influenced by the warm welcome I’ve received from my research group and the community at the University of Kent (UoK). I’m incredibly grateful for that! #EarnedFlowers
However, life is no bed of roses, and I don’t want to give you the impression that it’s been smooth sailing (because, spoiler alert: it hasn’t). Here are six things I’ve found both helpful and, at times, totally frustrating about life in this new context.
What Has Helped My Life:
- The Thorough Communication Channels
Anticipating change was an intentional effort on my part because the UoK admin team went above and beyond to communicate with me—before I arrived, during my stay in the UK, and even in preparing me for life after university. I cannot emphasize enough how much I’ve appreciated this level of support through constant communication.
2. A Supportive Community
In South Africa, we have a saying that has completely changed how people engage with one another despite their differences: Ubuntu—“Motho ke motho ka batho.” This concept highlights the value of community and solidarity, and it has been a guiding principle for me as I settle into life in the UK. I’ve been fortunate to connect with new people and build relationships with those who have walked this journey before me—those who can help me contextualize British life. I am so grateful for all of them: my research group, my friends from church, and a few other wonderful individuals who truly make my life special.
Most importantly, my amazing husband, who relocated to the UK with me because he believes in the work I do. #AnAbsoluteKeeper #Flex
3. YouTube
Okay, this one might sound obvious (because, DUH!), but I can’t explain how many times I’ve turned to YouTube for help—whether it’s how-to videos, local guides, money-saving hacks, and so much more. I’ve never relied on the internet as much as I have since moving here, and YouTube is one of my go-to platforms (no shame in admitting that).
What Has Contributed to My General Frustration:
- The Endless Paperwork
Oh my goodness, how do people survive all this admin?! (And yes, I’m aware of the irony—because the thing that helps me in one instance is the source of my discomfort in another.) It’s like paperwork is both a weapon and an organ—constantly needed, but never-ending.
2. Playing Conversions
It doesn’t help that the British pound is worth about twenty-three South African rands per pound.
My first few months here were a nightmare because my money just didn’t stretch as far as it did back home. I’ll admit, I may (or may not) have had one or two meltdowns over the exchange rate.
But it’s fine. I’m fine. I’ve gotten better at adjusting!
3. Grocery Store Product Differences
One thing no one tells you about relocating is how products’ names and meanings can differ from country to country. For instance, cream soda in South Africa is a completely different drink (super yummy!). I made the
mistake of assuming I was buying something familiar and nostalgic, only to be shocked by the British version of cream soda. And don’t even get me started on rooibos, bottle cap mechanics, or self-checkout stations—small variations that can really take a toll on a newcomer trying to settle in.
All part of the learning curve, right? My school fees for attempting to be adventurous and a settled traveller!
I know, these are tiny pains in the grand picture of my goals as a student, and I recognize that. But I also want to remind you to be cautious of the “little foxes” that can sneak in and cause small disruptions. They can end up taking up too much space and stealing your joy and peace of mind if you’re not careful.
So, while I may sound overly optimistic and possibly unrelatable to some, I do want to acknowledge that my general attitude of gratitude and my effort to stay content often shapes the way I view these challenges. You’ve probably heard the saying, “Your attitude determines your altitude”?
I’m not sure who first coined it, but it’s one of those clichés I try to live by, no matter how tough life gets.
Thanks for indulging me in these reflections.
Until next time!