Starting university is one of the most exciting times of your life. You’re moving into a new place, meeting new people, and starting fresh. But let’s be honest – living with people you’ve never met before can feel a little daunting. The good news? Everyone’s in the same boat, and with the right approach, you’ll settle in and start making great memories in no time.
Here are our top 7 tips for living with new people and settling into uni life.
Be friendly and open
It might sound obvious, but a simple smile or “hi” can go a long way in those first few days. Everyone is nervous about making friends, and showing that you’re approachable helps break the ice. Try keeping your bedroom door open as you’re settling in, or invite a flatmate in for a chat over a cup of tea. Putting out some snacks or a game in the kitchen to share is also a great way to get people together. And don’t worry if you’re not sure what to say – even small questions like ‘Where are you from?’ or ‘Have you explored campus yet?’ can spark a conversation. Those little chats are often the first steps to lasting friendships.
“Just be kind, be friendly, and be respectful. These will be the people that you live with for the year, and if you’re able to make friends with even just a few of them at the very beginning, it makes the start so much easier as you know that you’ve got someone to talk to and spend time with as you find your feet, branch out, and make new friends.”
Isobel, Drama and Theatre student
Set ground rules early
It might not be the most exciting task, but sorting out house rules makes life a lot easier. You and your flatmates are responsible for keeping your accommodation clean, so once you’ve settled in, have a quick flat meeting to agree on things like cleaning, noise, guests, and shared spaces. You could make a cleaning rota or decide when to keep noise to a minimum. Sorting this out early helps prevent arguments and makes everyone feel respected. If it helps, you can make these flat meetings a regular thing – over time, they might become a great opportunity to catch up and check in with each other.
“Don’t hesitate to talk to your flatmates and eventually establish some rules you will all be okay with! It will help you a lot and relieve some stress.”
Cassiopee, Digital Arts student
Get involved
Uni is packed with opportunities to get stuck in and meet people. Whether it’s Welcome Week events, ResLife activities, or joining a club or society, saying “yes” is a brilliant way to make friends. Even something simple like hosting a movie night or playing a board game in your flat can bring people together. The more you get involved, the quicker you’ll feel part of the community. You don’t have to say yes to everything – it’s important to rest too – but being open to new experiences, like a quiz night, society taster, or even a last-minute day trip, can lead to some of your best memories at uni.
“Don’t be afraid of not being able to make friends. It is so easy to meet people by joining societies and sports clubs. Also, make sure you find your work-life balance; otherwise you could fall behind easily. Don’t forget you’re here to study hard but also enjoy new experiences.”
Yasemin, Law student
Be considerate of others
You’ll be living with people from different places, backgrounds, and cultures, each with their own habits and routines. Maybe your flatmate loves early mornings while you’re more of a night owl, or perhaps they have food traditions you’ve never heard of before. Respecting and celebrating these differences helps make your flat a friendly, welcoming place. Little things like cleaning up after yourself when cooking, keeping shared spaces tidy, wearing headphones for music, and keeping noise down late at night all go a long way in avoiding tension and making life easier for everyone.
“Have patience. Create a group chat with your flatmates because communication is key!”
Liliya, Law student
Decorate your room
Your uni room is your own space, so it’s worth making it feel homely. A few cosy, personal touches can ease homesickness and help you feel settled. Photos of family, friends, or pets are a simple way to make your room feel more like home – stick them where you’ll see them every day. Throws and cushions make the space warmer, while plants (real or fake!) add colour and life. Posters, art, or even a wall calendar can brighten bare walls. Keep it comfy and personal without overcrowding. Just check the Accommodation Handbook first, so you don’t decorate with anything that isn’t allowed.
“Houseplants are great for your bedroom, as they brighten up the space and have a positive effect on your mood.”
Daisy, Anthropology student
Balance fun and study
It’s easy to get caught up in the social side of university – there’s always something going on. While it’s important to make time for fun, don’t forget your studies. Keeping on top of lectures and assignments will save you stress later and help you enjoy social time guilt-free. Finding the right balance is key to a happy uni life.
Look after yourself
Starting university is a big change, so it’s important to take care of yourself. Make sure you’re eating well, getting enough sleep, and taking breaks when you need them. It’s normal to feel homesick or overwhelmed sometimes, so don’t be too hard on yourself. Looking after your mental and physical health will make settling in much easier. You don’t need to have everything figured out straight away – and if you’re finding things tricky, whether it’s academically or personally, there’s lots of support available. Your Residential Life Assistants (RLAs), student support services, and even your flatmates are there to help. Asking for help isn’t a weakness – it’s a smart way to look after yourself.
“Studying is important in life, but so is self-care. If everything gets too much, just step back for a bit and focus again, because, no matter what happens, you have to be your own top priority.”
Yasemin, Law student
Living with new people can feel like a big step, but it’s also one of the most rewarding parts of university life. With a little kindness, effort, and openness, you’ll not only make your flat feel like home but also build friendships and memories that last long after uni.